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Parenting An Older Child With Autism

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Parenting An Older Child With Autism

As many of you know I have a son who was diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome a couple of years ago and I have to admit that although we knew he was autistic, to finally have it in black and white as an official diagnosis was a huge relief.

It’s not that I wanted him to be autistic, I just wanted answers and an explanation to his sometimes odd behaviour. I think that any parent of a child with autism will relate to that; if it has a name we can deal with it or that’s how I felt. It is now our normal.

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Things haven’t been easy and I won’t lie and say everything is hunky dory because it really isn’t. Parenting is hard, full stop. Parenting a child with autism is harder still and when it comes to parenting an older child with autism, I have been finding it nigh on impossible.

To be honest, at the age of nineteen my son is no longer a child, so should not be treated like one, which makes things even harder. He’s not daft, but has unbending, quirky ways and what I call additional baggage, which comes in the form of a sensory disorder, dyspraxia and a myopathy (which is a totally separate condition and which is part of the reason why we got a late diagnosis for autism).

Last Week Reality Hit Me; Parenting An Older Child With Autism Brings With It Great Responsibility

Never having to be away from my family, it never occurred to me what would happen if I had to be away from my family… Until last week, that is.

My sister in the UK and her family are going through a lot. In two weeks time my sister will be giving her husband one of her kidneys. A gift like no other. Having two young children and with our parents being over here, they will be needing some help. Going through something like that you want your family there too. My sisters husbands parents live nearby and help out a lot. My sisters (our) parents are over here with me (obviously a bit of favoritism going on there).

Last week when Mum got the call from my sister, she was going to go over on her own, so I said I’d go with her and stay for two weeks to help out with the children, whilst my sister and her husband are in hospital. Mum will stay there for seven weeks, just over the length of time it should take them to recover.

But I really can’t go. My children are no longer children, but I can’t leave Greg’s for any length of time on his own as he just wouldn’t eat or drink (he doesn’t feel hunger or thirst) and he probably wouldn’t get out of bed (his alarm goes off at nine o’clock every morning, but he doesn’t get up and probably wouldn’t if I weren’t here).

In the winter leaving him, would be more doable, but Neal has started his summer work and will be out of the house for at least ten hours a day, seven days a week and that is too long to leave Greg’s. Catherine has exams, so it’s unfair to ask her to keep a furtive eye on him.

If my Dad hadn’t stepped up and said he’ll go over with Mum instead of me, I would have gone. I would have pushed my family’s needs to the back of my mind and I would have gone. I can’t imagine what my sisters little ones must be feeling like, they are nine and six and will be scared for their parents. A lot of fun distractions will be in order and who better than Auntie Debs?…No!…Fatpoose (the Greek name for Grandad is Papoose, you can work the rest out for yourself – except he’s not really!).

My Reality

Is that parenting an older child with autism means that I can’t be sure that my parenting responsibilities will ever change. I have to live in the here and now, taking things one step at a time and hoping that things come together for him. Hoping Greg’s therapy works and that something clicks… Again, don’t get me wrong he is far from daft, he is just wired differently.

Greg’s has his own ways of doing things and cannot see any problem in not eating or drinking, he has a thing about the microwave that isn’t safe and will happily wear the same clothes, in like forever…The list goes on. Thankfully showering and changing his underpants daily are habits he got into from a young age, and have stuck with him.

He has an amazing memory and will also knock you down with sporting statistics from way back when (football, snooker, darts) and he doesn’t miss a trick, which comes in handy as I have a hopeless memory and miss all the tricks.

So that’s my reality of parenting an older child with autism. Have you had a reality check recently?

If you want to read a post on autistic children and illness, you really should read this post by Catie, who has shared an excellent post on her blog Diary Of An Imperfect Mum.

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  1. 49

    Jean | DelightfulRepast.com says

    Debbie, this post jumped out at me because I was just yesterday talking to our friends who have a teenage daughter with autism. They adopted her from China, and she was one or two when they brought her home. It was heartbreaking when she was diagnosed with autism, but they have coped well. It certainly makes life more complicated, though, and I admire all you parents who manage so well. AND you have certainly managed to keep your sense of humour! :-) Jean | DelightfulRepast.com recently posted...Pinto Beans and Refried Beans - Frijoles de Olla y Frijoles RefritosMy Profile
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    chickenruby says

    Debbie this is a really tricky one, we have no one that we can leave our daughter with other than her care home, we used to get respite, prior to her going into care and of course when she was in school we had a break. With Peter working full time and travelling and with 4 other boys we had no choice but to go ahead and chose a care home for her. Even now no one else from the family visits her, apart from her siblings when they are in the area or with us. It's such a shame it's during the school holidays, would you be able to go over to help your sister out for a week after your mum and dad return? or could your dad manage your son for a long weekend? chickenruby recently posted...My Sunday Photo - Week 124 - O is for outdoorsMy Profile
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      Debbie says

      Hi Suzanne, that is so sad and a difficult choice for you to have to make. So, so difficult, but I often wonder of Gregs would be better in a care home of sorts. Somewhere he could learn to be independent but with supervision away from home. That sort of thing isn't available here though. Going over when my parents came back wasn't an option as at the time it was well into summer and that's our busy time. My sister and her family will be over this year for three weeks in August, which will be lovely... And I can see their scars! Thank you for popping over and commenting. xx
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    Mama, My Kid Doesn't Poop Rainbows says

    Wow, such a lot of pressure and responsibility. I'm glad that you have a close and supportive family. I used to work for the National Autistic Society supporting young people as they ventured out into supported living situations away from home. It was a real challenge for some and quite a steep learning curve but it was great watching them gain some independence. Must have been terrifying for their parents though. I hope you're sister recovers well from her operation and that your son is able to take some steps toward independence. Make sure your taking some time for yourself with all this going on! x #fartglitter
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    Sonia says

    I hope all goes well with your sister and her husband. What a traumatic experience for all and lucky you have lots of family to help out. Conditions such as Gregs are so difficult as no 2 are the same and often combine several conditions/difficulties. You sound like you have a good support network and are dealing with life as it throws stuff at you! Xx #fartglitter Sonia recently posted...Garden Activities & Crafts for KidsMy Profile
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    • 54

      Debbie says

      Hi Sonia, everything did go well with the op and my sister's husband is back at work full time now. It is taking my sister more time to recover and she does get tired very easily, but that is just her body adjusting and it will take a while. Thank you for stopping by and commenting. xx
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    Gemma Nuttall says

    Gosh Debbie, what a time for you all. That's an amazing thing your sister is doing for her husband, but as you say, a terribly worrying time for you all and their children. I am sending much love and luck to you all. As for your son, I cannot imagine how tough this must be. When we have children, we imagine them growing up, going to school and college, getting jobs and moving on. When something happens to alter that, and you know your child will be utterly dependant on you forever, that must be such a tough thing to deal with. I take my hat off to you and wish you all the very best. Obviously as parents, we will always be there for our kids, but to have no rest form it, must be so difficult. You're smashing. Gem.x #MondayMorningBlogClub
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    • 56

      Debbie says

      Hi Gemma, it can be tough at times, but we hope that although Greg's probably will never be totally independent he will learn to be a little more self sufficient. The good news is that my sister and her hubby had their op yesterday and both are doing well, she's even managed to post a photo on FB, of her rigged up to the morphine. It's a big relief, now it's just waiting and seeing how her husband does with her kidney. Thank you for stopping by. xx
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    Morgan Prince says

    Oh Debbie I had no idea how tough parenting an older child with autism (and other things) must be. People tend to think, like with anything, that older children can go it on their own. Once they get into their mid-teens then it's time to let them make their own mistakes and start to make their own way in the world. This obviously isn't true for the most part. Wishing you the best lovely. I hope your sister and brother-in-law do okay. xxx Thanks for linking to #PoCoLo Morgan Prince recently posted...What I Read 48My Profile
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    • 58

      Debbie says

      Hi Morgan, our daughter is mid teens now and I could leave her on her own for a week or two without having to think twice, which does bring it home about Greg's. On the other hand things could be so much worse, and there is always a chance that he will become slightly more independent. Thank you for popping over and commenting. xx
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    Silly Mummy says

    I don't think the dynamic and the responsibility, and how it must feel, when you have an adult child who still needs a lot of support and supervision, for any reason, is one of those things people give much thought to or understand well, unless they experience it. It's kind of an automatic assumption that children grow up, need you less and become independent, isn't it? It must be a bit of an adjustment, and a lot of worry, to realise things are not quite happening that way. Still, it sounds like you cope brilliantly. & I hope your sister and her husband recover well - what an amazing thing for her to do. Thanks for linking with #PasstheSauce
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    • 60

      Debbie says

      Hi, it is natural that children grow up, become independent and one day leave and it only becomes apparent that things aren't going to happen that way, for some of us, when we realise that we can't leave our adult children without thinking about it. Today he's barely ate until this evening and I'm here, if I weren't he probably wouldn't have at all. My sister and her husband have the op tomorrow, and I can't say that I'm not just a little nervous for them. But Mum will let me know when they are out of surgery and awake. Thank you for stopping by and commenting. xx
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    Izzie Anderton says

    It's times like this that we realise how much we have to cope with every day of our lives isn't it - without the burden of anything else being thrown in to challenge us further. I can't begin to imagine what it's like having a child with autism, but know that I found parenting teenagers difficult at times. Gentle hugs Debs - you have made the right decision for you and your family. Wishing your sister and brother-in-law all the luck in the world for next week x Izzie Anderton recently posted...The Blog Spot Interview with Anya HarrisMy Profile
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    • 62

      Debbie says

      Hi Izzie, I am sure that having teenage twins was a challenge a half! Looking on the positive side having a son who is autistic is our normal, so it probably seems harder when on the outside looking in. I do wish I could have gone and I know my niece and nephew would like me to go over when Dad comes back (my sister kindly informed me). They have their op tomorrow so I'm sure they are more than a little nervous right now, I know I am and I'm over here. Thank you for stopping by and commenting. xx
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    michelle says

    I have a 14 year old son who is finishing up the 8th grade and while I write about his accomplishments on my blog and some of his struggles, reading this actually dawned on me about an issue the other day that his dad and I had to deal with - shoes! He had been wearing a good pair of shoes for a year now, but they had worn down badly and he never told us. If it hadn't been for the fact that his brother needed new shoes - which then I always get for both boys - I wouldn't have known that his shoes were hurting his feet. When I checked and saw just how run down the inside of his shoes really were, then asked him if the shoes were bothering him, that's when he told me that they were, but he doesn't think to come to me or tell me before hand. He had been dealing with sore feet for several weeks and I didn't know! I felt horrible and then had a long talk with him about making sure to tell me when something is bothering him. It's funny because when he's upset about something or when he gets sick, he will tell me but for whatever reason when it comes to shoes and clothes, he won't say anything. He also doesn't tell me when his pants are getting too tight. I often have to check with him. You just raised an interesting topic for me to think about with my son. Thank you for this info and I do hope that your son's doctor is able to help you come up with a plan for him! #passthesauce michelle recently posted...Changes are Happening!My Profile
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    • 65

      Debbie says

      Hi Michelle, I am learning that there are 'minor' things that us parents of autistic children accept as normal, but really aren't and that by sharing these quirks we are actually helping each other in some small way. Don't feel bad about your son, as there is only so many steps ahead we can be! My son is the same, I have to keep an eye on his shoes and clothes and he still puts tee shirts on that are way too small (getting rid of them isn't that easy either!). Yesterday Gregs got ready to go out and came out wearing his jeans backwards (he's nineteen!). He will never ask for new clothes and never seems bothered when we do go out and buy some. Most of how I deal with Greg's is by watching and second guessing as he will never say if he feels unwell or is bothered by something (which rarely happens as he seems oblivious to most things), unless I ask. I have my fingers crossed with the new therapist as he's young and may have some fresh ideas. Thank you for stopping by. xx
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    justsayingmum says

    Oh I really cannot imagine how heavy your heart must feel at times, but it is totally understandable that you need to be with your son and your family will understand that - it's just your own personal battles that make it hard. Your son is very lucky to have you, Debs and I love the line where you say that you have to live in the here and now and take one step at a time - that's all you can do and is a fantastic approach, so you don't get worn down with overthinking things. I wish your sister and brother-in-law well and hope things go smoothly #passthesauce justsayingmum recently posted...The Teenage Chronologues: Part One ‘Boyfriends’My Profile
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    • 67

      Debbie says

      Hi Helen, seeing my parents off at the airport on Thursday I did wish I could have been going too, but I've just spoken to my sister and they are enjoying tier weekend before their op on Tuesday. In regards to Greg's, we just have to hope that one day we will be able to leave him and not have to worry too much. He's just started with a new therapist, so fingers crossed we see some changes ! Thank you for stopping by and commenting. xx
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    Nikki Frank-Hamilton says

    Debbie, my heart breaks for you. Although my son doesn't have autism we go through the same issues. We don't like to be too far away in case he needs us. And since he doesn't reach out, or rarely, when he needs help we feel that we need to be in a place where we can see him and assess him often. I hope that your sister and her husband come through this with great results. Your family is amazing. Each and every one of you. Praying that Greg's new Doctor can help you put a plan into action that will be beneficial for all. Know that I am in your corner, you are not alone, sending love, hugs and prayers. xx Nikki Frank-Hamilton recently posted...My real issue with Target…My Profile
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    • 69

      Debbie says

      Hi Nikki, things aren't so bad and they could be much worse! From what I've read you are in very much a similar position too, so know what I mean when I say it's all 'normal' to us. At the moment my main worry is what the future has to hold for Greg's, but that's no different than most parents. Greg's gets to meet the new therapist on Wednesday, so fingers crossed that fresh eyes can help.... I'm sure all will go well for my sister and her husband and that this time next year, all the worry for them and surgery will be a distant memory. Thank you for stopping by and commenting. xx
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    Merlinda Little ( @pixiedusk) says

    I am so speechless and I can feel the weight of this issue for you. You are one of the people here in social media that I value and is important to me. Your support to me and my blog is just amazing. And this is even if you have so much stuff going on in your personal life. Thanks for your generosity. And this generosity is I think what will make you get through this. You have so much love to give and I know that its hard but that love would is a great foundation in your parenting =) I dont even know if I am making sense. Sorry if I am not, Merlinda Little ( @pixiedusk) recently posted...Nikon GoProMy Profile
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      Debbie says

      Thank you Merlinda, your comment means a lot. I'm probably no more generous than the next person (look at my chocolate and I take you down!). I enjoy reading and supporting you and your blog as do many others and you also share the love and support too! And to me that's what being part of the blogging community is about. Things aren't as bad as they may sound as it really is our 'normal' now (I'm not a lover of the word 'normal'!) and as parents we all struggle at one time or another.... And you made perfect sense to me. Thank you for popping over and commenting. xx
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    Mary-the boondocks blog says

    Debbie, I hope that all will go well with your sister and her husband and pray that you have the patience and strength to take care of your family. I think our job as parents is never really done. But your job is harder than most. Praying for you. Mary-the boondocks blog recently posted...Sweet Inspiration Link Party #6My Profile
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      Debbie says

      Hi Mary, as parents we find the strength we have to when we must. It just what we do. There are things that Greg's doesn't do that other boy his age do, but I'm glad he doesn't. Like riding motor bikes; now that I count as a blessing! I'm sure all will go well with my sister and her husband. They seem to have had excellent support from the hospital. Thank you for popping by. xx
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    Louise says

    It sounds like your family has an awful lot to cope with - and that you are all pulling together. I wish you all the very best of luck for the stressful times to come xx Louise recently posted...Cloth earsMy Profile
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      Debbie says

      Hi Louise, I just had one of those 'dawning' moments, but it could be much worse and at least my sister gets to spend time with Mum and Dad. Thank you for stopping by and commenting. xx
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    Natalie Ray says

    Such a difficult situation for you Debbie, but I think we all do what we have to do when we have to do it - nobody could ever criticise you for the decision you made, and it's great that your parents are both able to go over together. I do hope all goes well for your sister and her husband, what an amazing thing for her to be doing. But don't underestimate what an amazing job you are doing too - being there for your sister in spirit even if not physically there, and looking after Greg's and doing everything you need to do as a parent. Nat.x Natalie Ray recently posted...Izabela Peters Children’s Teepee: ReviewMy Profile
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      Debbie says

      Hi Natalie, we certainly do, don't we? And I know my sister wants to see Dad, who doesn't go over as often as Mum, so things worked out there. Not having thought about having to leave the family for any length of time it occur to me that it just isn't that easy. One day when my husbands not working I'll just have to go! Thank you for popping by ans commenting. xx
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    Random Musings says

    This was a really interesting post. I've read a lot recently about parenting autistic children, but I've never come across anything about how that continues when they reach early adulthood. It sounds like a very difficult task and I agree that taking one day at a time is all you can really do in this situation. I hope your sister and husband are recovering well. Thanks for linking up to #BloggerClubUK :) Debbie Random Musings recently posted...Bingo, Books And More: Tips For TravellingMy Profile
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      Debbie says

      Hi Debbie, you are right, there is not so much information about having an older child with autism on the internet, and I'm not sure why. It was only once I started my blog that I thought that sharing some of our experiences wouldn't be a bad thing as I know I could do with more stories to relate to. My sister and her husband have their op next Tuesday and I'm sure they will be fine. Thank you for stopping by. xx
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    • 81

      Debbie says

      Hi, it's nice to know when someone relates to how things are, it makes me realise we are not going mad! Things always seem to work out one way or another, maybe not in the way we'd like or expect, but somehow. Thank you for stopping by and commenting. xx
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    catie says

    I had a lightbulb moment reading this Hun as my big lad never says he's hungry or thirsty and I have to bully him to drink. So interesting g to see what my future holds. My son just doesn't seem to notice, my friend was shocked this week when he went to go out to play without shoes on his feet (I explained that is normal). Thank you so much for linking to my post your support really means a lot! 🌸
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      Debbie says

      Hi Catie, Greg's used to get quite upset because he had no idea how it felt to be hungry or thirsty. I've tried to teach him to eat at certain times, but that hasn't worked either. Greg's tried to out the other day with his trousers on backwards and couldn't see the problem. You've got to live it to believe it, haven't you? Last night we saw a new psychologist who will start working with Greg's next week. Strangely, the best thing I took away from the meeting was that the psychologist pointed out that Greg's will never be 'normal'. Which means he seems to understand. We've had ones in the past who seem to think that they were dealing with a 'normal' person and that by telling them to do something a certain way he would automatically 'get it'. Worse still is when he's been treated like a child. It will be interesting to see what the future brings for you, but I have a feeling that because you've had an earlier diagnosis things will be better for you. And I know that tings could be much worse for us, so I am thankful that they aren't. Thank you for stopping by and by sharing our stories, we make make someones else's life a bit easier. xx
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    Tara says

    What a difficult choice. Thank goodness your dad has stepped in - although I'm sure you'd still like to be able to see and help your sister (and her husband). I read a lot of posts by mums with young children with autism, often newly diagnosed. It's interesting to hear from someone with an older children. It certainly sounds like you have to think outside the box a lot. Tara recently posted...Pregnancy loss – how to explain it to a toddler?My Profile
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      Debbie says

      Hi Tara, I am happy that Dad has stepped in as I know my sister did want him over there with Mum. I also find myself reading posts from Mums with young children with autism and I think this is where the brilliance of the internet can't be under estimated. It makes people aware of so many things. Living on an island, I'm sure played a big part in a late diagnosis, the medical professionals we dealt with weren't trained well enough to spot Greg's autism. And I probably wasn't forceful enough and may be too trusting to start with. It is good that more children are getting diagnosed earlier now as that can make a really big difference to their future lives. Thank you for stopping by and commenting. xx
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    Louise (Little Hearts, Big Love) says

    So much going on for your Debbie and what an anxious time it must be. Hope all goes well with your sister giving her husband a kidney and glad to hear that both your mum and dad will be there to support your sister's children. It must be hard to feel torn and to not feel able to be there for your sister because you're needed at home. I hope that Greg's therapy helps things to click for him. Wishing you and your family all the very best x Louise (Little Hearts, Big Love) recently posted...Staying safe in the sun with Boots SoltanMy Profile
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    • 87

      Debbie says

      Hi Louise, it could be worse. At least they'll all be in good hands and have the support they need, I can't ask for more than that. Me and Neal are seeing the new psychologist (for Gregs) tonight, but I'm worried I'm not in the right frame of mind. Fingers crossed this chap is a genius! Thank you for stopping by. xx
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    • 89

      Debbie says

      Hi Tamara, it's amazing that they are such a close match. Mum goes back quite regularly, but she wouldn't have seen Dad in two years, so it will be nice for her. I am sure everything will work out for the best. This time next year it will all be in the past. xx
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    Comedy Plus says

    My your plate is full and then some. You do need some time for you though. I'm just saying. Have a fabulous day and thanks for sharing such a personal issue. ☺ Comedy Plus recently posted...Awww MondaysMy Profile
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    Cheryl | TimeToCraft says

    I can see your dilemna. I'd want to be with my sister and her family, but at the same time, you're needed at home. I'm sure your father will be a welcome addition to the support team. I hope it all goes smoothly. Parenting can certainly set us some challenges at times. Have a good week. Cheryl | TimeToCraft recently posted...Here I am: AgainMy Profile
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    Jen says

    Oh Debbie this is hard! I love you lady, seriously. What a hard middle place to be in. Wanting to help, but knowing that your family needs you right now. I am sorry. I am so very glad though that your parents will be able to help out your sister. Over in the states we have nurses who can be brought into allow the family with special needs children or adults a sort of reprieve time, is that something that would be a possibility? I know things are frustrating over there when it comes to paperwork, but maybe there is something like that? Since I can't be there in person, here is a big virtual hug and I am sending lots of good vibes your way for your sister and brother in law! Jen recently posted...The Happy Now Blog Link- Up # 7My Profile
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    • 93

      Debbie says

      Hi Jen, it was a relief when Dad said he would go, it was an odd situation because he actually thought it was the perfect situation for me to get away and spend time with my sister and her family. It's not like that over here and I would feel a little bit of a fraud as Greg's is okay for a few hours, with a pep talk first, so it's not having a person who needs constant care and who can't do things, he just needs prompting, cajoling, prodding to do things as he just wouldn't think of them otherwise. The paperwork is horrific to try and get anything over here, and there is no support system. This week we are meeting with a new psychologist who (fingers crossed) I am hoping is related to Harry Potter! Good vibes taken on board and thank you for being a virtual friend. xx
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    Candace says

    Wow! You have a lot going on, Debbie. I'm glad your parents are able to go help your sister's family in this difficult time. I think you made the best choice for your circumstances. I know how hard it is to be in more than one place at the same time :). We have to make tough choices at times. I hope all goes well with your sister's and her husband's surgeries. Candace recently posted...How to Recover From Emotional Eating BingesMy Profile
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      Debbie says

      Hi Candace, we've known for a while that my sister was the best match for her husband (what are the chances?), and it's just been a case of waiting. It's impossible to be in more than one place at a time and I know that they will be getting all the support they need from family and friends, but I would like to have been there to help and spend time with my niece and nephew. I am sure that all will go well with the surgery. Thank you for stopping by and commenting. xx
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    Beta mummy says

    Thought-provoking post. I suppose we all assume that our kids grow up and by a certain age they don't really need us anymore...but obviously that's not the case, particularly with kids that have disabilities. I hope that your sister and her husband recover well from their operations xx #bloggerclubuk
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      Debbie says

      Hi Beth, that's the thing, and because I'm so used to things being the way they are it hadn't really occurred to me that it's not just a case of Greg's being at home, it's also the case of someone being close at hand too. He's perfectly alright to be left for a few hours, but I always 'mention' things so that he knows the he's okay. I'm sure my sister and husband are going to be fine, they've had what sounds like some excellent support and Andy will be feeling like a new man in a few weeks. Thank you for stopping by. xx
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